My husband is ace. Well, not all of the time, sometimes he can be a little irritating, and he really knows how to push my buttons, but on the whole I reckon I’m pretty lucky.
You see, he’s one of those “hands on” types, and no I am not being dirty when I say that. I mean he’s man enough to cook dinner occasionally, wash the dishes and change pooey nappies. He rushes home at 5pm and throws himself into the horror dinner, bath, book, bed hours, and does it with a smile on his face.
When we first met, waaaaaay back at the ripe old age of 19, I knew he was a keeper, but you don’t really know someone until you are down and dirty in the trenches of parenthood. It can bring out the best and the worst in you, and believe me, we’ve shown both sides many a time. He has seen me at my weakest and saddest, but is always there to support. I remember a few weeks after Eddie was born and he was back at work. He phoned to see how things were going and to put it nicely I basically had a meltdown on the phone, hanging up after a few expletives. Five minutes later he walked in the door, scooped Eddie up, coaxed Gus off my leg and told me to take ten. Seriously. The best thing was there was no judgemental look in his eye, like “you’re supposed to know what you’re doing, aren’t you?” There was just love, and compassion.
He’s just as amazing with the kids. The boys idolise him and huge beaming smiles creep up on their faces whenever he enters the room.
He relishes taking Gus to the pool for a swim on the weekend, or giving Eddie a bath at the end of the day. He’s also not afraid to tackle the hard stuff, like the sickness, the crankiness, the middle of the night meltdowns.
We don’t always agree on things when it comes to parenting, but what I’ve learnt after 2 years of doing this thing is that that’s actually a good thing. Neither of us is right or wrong, and it’s ok that we do things differently.
My love for him has grown one hundred times, since we became parents. It’s added another dimension to our own relationship, and shown me a beautiful side to the man I have known and loved for nearly 13 years now. I feel very, very lucky and I can’t wait to continue this parenting journey with him.
Has your relationship changed since kids arrived on the scene? Good or bad?